Q&A for 2018: Reflecting on Favorite Moments, Biggest Challenges & More!

Q&A for 2018: Reflecting onFavorite Moments, Biggest Challenges & More!

Hello, friends! I am back after a much needed holiday break and an amazing trip to Europe. Today, I will share with you my reflections on the past year. I know I’m a little late to the game, because we have been in 2019 for over a week now (ahh!!). But on a personal level, it is important for me to reflect on each year as it comes to an end. This year, I want to share with you what that looks like for me. So, here is my Q&A for 2018, with questions I like to ask myself, and answers highlighting big moments, challenges and an important lesson from 2018.

My Personal Q&A for 2018

What were your top three favorite moments?

  1. Hands-down, the top moment of 2018 was getting married to Will. I know our marriage will be the biggest, most rewarding commitment of my life, and it felt  amazing to embark on this journey surrounded by the support of so many loved ones. It is so much more than “a wedding day,” but it is hard to really explain that until you’ve gone through it.
  2. Thanksgiving – I always love celebrating this holiday and focusing on gratitude. In 2018, our Thanksgiving felt extra special. It was our first holiday as a married couple and we luckily had time with all of our parents on that day. This was such a blessing. Due to our family dynamics and their different locations, I realized that may be the only holiday we get to spend with all of our parents in one day.
  3. Honeymoon – We had a two-part honeymoon to give us equal doses of relaxation and adventure. Right after our wedding, we went to Antigua and stayed at a charming resort with a room that opened up to a quiet beach. It was absolutely beautiful and felt like paradise. It was also really nice to have dedicated time to relax and reflect on the whole wedding weekend directly after. If you’re getting married, I highly recommend taking time off immediately after your wedding, even if it isn’t for a conventional honeymoon. For a dose of adventure, we ended 2018 in Europe for the second part of our honeymoon. We had to reschedule our European adventure a couple times due to major work changes, but I am really glad we made that trip happen. I’ll be sharing more about it soon!

Q&A for 2018: Reflecting onFavorite Moments, Biggest Challenges & More! - SCsScoop.com

Q&A for 2018: Reflecting onFavorite Moments, Biggest Challenges & More! - SCsScoop.com

Q&A for 2018: Reflecting onFavorite Moments, Biggest Challenges & More! - SCsScoop.com

What accomplishment are you most proud of?

My biggest personal accomplishment was growing my relationship with Will. I felt like I knew so much about him and our relationship, even before we got married. I’m sure that sounds naive to those who’ve been married for 5, 10 or 25+ years. But, we communicate a lot, and I am proud how we grew through the changes that came with our simultaneous career changes over the summer of 2018.

My biggest work-related accomplishment was starting my own company. I haven’t talked about my work much, but I made the leap into contract work and left my 9 to 5. Starting a business and setting up my home office were a little daunting at times, but I feel really proud that I dared to do something a little unconventional with my career, and that it has been a success so far.

What lit you up?

One of the most positive changes I made in 2018 was creating a designated home office space. I obviously needed to do that for my at-home contract work, but I was not expecting that how it would change my mindset. Having my own designated space, designed just how I envisioned has been such a gift for my work. I feel more connected to my work, more in control of my schedule, more organized and more productive. I will share more about this new space soon!

A few “small” things that lit me up in 2018 … walks with Will and Maddie, my birthday dinner with Will, a summer hike in the Blue Ridge Mountains, seeing my little brother graduate high school, and all the family time at multiple weddings.

What were your three biggest challenges?

  1. Anxiety – This was new for me in 2018. I began the year with a lot of anxiety surrounding all the wedding plans and details and a desire for changes in my career. On default, I strive for perfection in everything, and when I can’t deliver that I can be really hard on myself. In 2018, my anxiety kept me from moving on things because I felt they wouldn’t be done right. I felt unsure of myself at times, second-guessed my decisions a lot and would lay awake at night thinking of all the possible outcomes of all the things that were out of my control. There were times I was so overwhelmed with the various things on my plate that I had trouble breathing. Now, I feel compelled to add that I have not been diagnosed with anxiety by a doctor. I have an aversion to doctors and did not want to be put on any medication. Thankfully, this got better towards the end of the year, but I definitely have some things to work through.
  2. Time Management – If you know me well, you know I hate time. I hate how there is rarely enough of it, and I hate how I often underestimate how long it will take me to get something done. Time challenged me in 2018 and in a lot of ways that is connected to the anxiety around perfection I just mentioned. I think it can be pretty normal for life to feel like a never-ending to-do list at times (right!?). But, I struggled with managing my time in 2018. Work ended up taking more time out of my day than I wanted to give it and that was a big challenge to address. It’s a challenge I am still facing!
  3. Maddie – If you don’t know from my frequent Instagram stories of Maddie, she is my 15-year-old dog. I have had her since I was a teenager. In 2018, we learned that she has kidney failure, and her health has been pretty up and down due to that. Maddie also had to have emergency surgery for an abscessed tooth two days after we got married! It has been challenging to see her getting older, a little less like herself, all while knowing that there won’t be enough time left with her.
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Here’s Maddie on our wedding day. I loved having her by my side as I got ready, but the poor thing was in pain and we didn’t know!

Related: How I Got Maddie & 15 Years Later

What was your biggest lesson?

Towards the end of 2018, I had a bit of an epiphany when it comes to letting go. I learned to let go of my fear of being misunderstood and to find confidence in who I am. Since I was a teenager, I have struggled with feeling misunderstood or not fully understood. I felt like people would assume things about me that were not in-line with my character. I feared coming across the wrong way. I feared people would think I was entitled, materialistic and overly self-involved… and it really upset me to think that people did not see my heart. Last year though, I realized it is not my job to shape the minds of other people when the impression they have of me is wrong. I realized the need to stay grounded in who I am. There will still be days that I compare myself to others or wonder what people think of me, but moving forward I will lean back into who I am and just keep going.

Related: My Journey to True Authenticity

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Even with some challenges, 2018 was a milestone year for us. I am grateful for all that God gave to us in 2018 and am honestly sad to see the year go. Now that I have taken the time to reflect on the past year, I will use this reflection to outline my plans and hopes for the New Year. I will share that post on Friday, so stay tuned.

Whether or not you do a little Q&A like mine, consciously reflecting on the past year and writing down your thoughts and feelings can be immensely helpful in planning for your year ahead. No matter the season of life you are in or how 2018 looked for you, reflection helps us see what things we would like to continue, take pride in our accomplishments, remember the lessons and assess the challenges we face.

I sincerely hope you have a wonderful year, and thank you so much for stopping by!

Sarah Camille

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Braving the Wilderness Quotes & My Journey to True Authenticity

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Do you ever think about how our decisions and thoughts are influenced by others? We live in a world of filtered social media posts, online trolls and 24-hour news cycles. The advertising, marketing and new industries are constantly commanding our attention, telling us what to think or consume. I question the ease in which we can all make decisions for ourselves and be the most authentic version of ourselves in this world. Are we all just emulating the things we see that we like? These thoughts and questions have sat with me for some time, and they are the initial reasons I was curious about Brené Brown’s book Braving the Wilderness. If you’ve had similar thoughts or feelings, hold tight and know that you aren’t alone. I’m sharing my favorite Braving the Wilderness quotes, my journey to authenticity and what it means to find true belonging.

Now before we get any further, I want to make one thing clear. I don’t have it all figured out. I am on a journey to authenticity. It’s something I strive for, but am in now way an expert in.

Braving the Wilderness Quotes

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In Braving the Wilderness, Brené Brown shares her personal experience coming to understand what it means to find true belonging. She talks about wanting (and trying) to be a cheerleader in high school in addition to the expectations her parents had of how she would fit in as a child. While Brown shares her journey, she doesn’t share her personal beliefs. I found that refreshing. Instead, Brown points out how we often avoid hearing beliefs that are different from our own. She encourages us to get comfortable talking about our values and beliefs with others.

“When we avoid certain conversations, and never fully learn how the other person feels about all of the issues, we sometimes end up making assumptions that not only perpetuate but deepen misunderstandings, and that can generate resentment. These results are sometimes worse for the relationship than just having the so-called “argument” would be. The key is to learn how to navigate conflicts or differences of opinion in a way that deepens mutual understanding, even if two people still disagree.” — Brené Brown

This is honestly something I struggle with. Outside of my close friends and family, I feel bad sharing personal thoughts because I worry it could offend someone. Now, I’ll never be someone who openly shares thoughts in a Facebook post about the latest headline story. But, as I get older, I realize I cannot hide my thoughts or allow myself  to feel ashamed for a certain belief just because it is not what the majority of people I know think.

Brown talks about how comfortable it is to keep to ourselves, but on the flip side it keeps us disconnected from others.

“Most of us are either making the choice to protect ourselves from conflict, discomfort, and vulnerability by staying quiet, or picking sides and in the process slowly and paradoxically adopting the behavior of the people we’re fighting. Either way, the choices we’re making to protect our beliefs and ourselves are leaving us disconnected, afraid, and lonely.” — Brené Brown

Brown also talks about our current culture and how geographically Americans are living among other like-minded people at a much higher rate than in previous periods of our history. There is a comfort that comes with being surrounded by people who think like us. Often the most common exception we make, as Brown points out, is with our families. Within many family dynamics there is an acceptance and respect for each person’s unique beliefs.

This begs the important question of why we so often judge and ridicule other people when their reaction to a situation or their belief about a certain topic is not the same as ours. 

What does it mean to Brave the Wilderness? 

When Brown talks about braving the wilderness, she is talking about the ability to confidently stand by your thoughts, actions and beliefs, regardless of whether you are alone in them. The key here is that if you are willing to brave the wilderness, you will find true belonging.

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“Belonging is being accepted for you. Fitting in is being accepted for being like everyone else. If I get to be me, I belong. If I have to be like you, I fit in.” — Brené Brown

Braving the Wilderness reminded me that the feeling of acceptance starts with ourselves. One of the best parts of Brown’s book is her interview with Viola Davis. Davis shares her journey to true authenticity, how she braved the wilderness and what that looks like in her life today.

Personally, I think my journey to true authenticity has just begun, and I plan to share my journey on this blog and other social media channels. While I don’t ever want to focus on just the negative things in my life, I do want to pull back the lens more. I will look for more opportunities to show you all who I truly am, my real life, struggles, recent lessons learned and achievements. There are two main reasons I plan to share these things. First, to get more comfortable being myself. And second, to hopefully inspire someone else to live unapologetically.

I would love to hear your thoughts about authenticity and these Braving the Wilderness quotes. Do you think the increase of technology, social media and  advertisements make it harder to brave the wilderness today than in decades past? Do you have a favorite Braving the Wilderness quote?

Are you on a journey to true authenticity? Do you struggle with not wanting to hurt other people’s feeling like I do? Let’s chat in the comments and share some support for each other.

I’ll leave you with one last simple, but profound quote.

“It takes courage to open ourselves up to joy.” — Brené Brown

Cheers!

Sarah Camille

 

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The Truth about the First 100 Days of Marriage

Everyone said it would fly by and it really did. The special day we anticipated for months came and went in a flash. Now, it has been a whole 100 days since Will and I got married. While it seems like we got married yesterday, we have also accomplished and learned a lot in the past 100 days! Today I wanted to share the truth about our first 100 days of marriage. People often question if marriage really changes the dynamic of a relationship, so I am going to touch on that as well. Here are our honest and personal opinions.

The Logistics

For both of us, married life has not felt much different from the year we spent engaged. I moved in with Will last summer, so aside from us (mainly me!) doing some additional decorating now that we are married, our home dynamic is the same. We still go grocery shopping, cook together and enjoy talking about our days on walks at night. It’s not particularly exciting or glamorous but they are the steady aspects of our relationship we can find comfort in.

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Our Biggest Change

We instantly agreed on what the single biggest change is that we have experienced since entering into married life. Now, we have much more free time! We knew wedding planning was taking up a lot of time, even more than I had originally anticipated. But, I didn’t realize just how much it took the focus off our long term plans, something Will and I have loved talking and dreaming about together since day one. Now that we are married, conversations about our future together are back in full force. We have a renewed excitement for where we are right now and everything that is to come.

Since getting married, other changes for us have included a new job for Will and some changes in my career. Will’s new job requires more travel than his previous one, so I have had to (and am still trying to) get used to weeks with less quality time than I’d like! I welcome any and all tips for those of you with a partner who travels a lot.

Level of Commitment

While we agreed about having extra time to think about our plans, Will and I have different views when it comes to the commitment that comes with marriage. Will said today he feels no different about his commitment to me than he did last year. I, however, can’t help but feel like sharing our vows publicly cemented and strengthened our commitment to each other. It is hard to explain, but I have felt an extra comfort and security ever since we exchanged our vows.

I wonder if our difference in opinion is something men and women often view differently. Will, like most men, solidified his commitment when he decided to propose. In contrast, I place a lot of value on words, so I feel like there was a difference in me saying, “Yes, I’ll marry you!” and “I promise I’ll always be there for you. I am yours forever.”

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Reminders

The first 100 days have been action-packed and full of change for us. We have a tendency to pack a lot on our plates and do as many fun things as we can. While this is an intention that comes from our excitement to do new things together, we’ve had to remind ourselves that there is no reason to rush. Slowing down and spreading out our plans helps us enjoy each new and individual experience more thoroughly.

In the past 100 days, we have celebrated my little brother’s high school graduation and my grandfather’s 80th birthday. We’ve gotten some beach time with family, had a long weekend in the woods and have enjoyed a hike, kayaking and two motorcycle racing weekends. Looking back, I’m not sure how we did all these things! We were originally supposed to go to Europe the month after our wedding, and due to feeling overwhelmed with all the things on our schedules, we postponed that trip. That might just be the best, first decision we made as a married couple! Hopefully, we can continue to pace ourselves.

The Truth about the First 100 Days of Marriage - While it seems like we got married yesterday, we have also accomplished and learned a lot in the past 100 days! Today I wanted to share the truth about our first 100 days of marriage. People often question if marriage really changes the dynamic of a relationship, so I am going to touch on that as well. -- Sarah Camille's Scoop - SCsScoop.com

Still Learning

When I first met Will, I was overwhelmed by all the questions he asked and just how much he wanted to know about me. Our relationship has grown a lot since that hot summer day, but I’m constantly reminded there are lessons learn about each other and our relationship. We are constantly growing and discovering new things about each other.

Three years into our relationship and 100 days into our marriage and I still wake up thinking, “How did I get so lucky?!” I hope we never stop feeling grateful to have each other. But, just like before marriage, we have our ups and downs, both individually and as a couple. One of the hardest times for me before marriage was losing my job. But going through that experience together gave us a vital lesson. When one of us is down, the person who is in a better state, has to pull the other back up and offer support. Our highs and lows provide us with lessons to make our relationship stronger. We love each other without expectation that the other will magically “save us,” and with the appreciation that being with the other person makes our lives feel completely whole.

“In all the world there is no heart for me like yours. In all the world there is no love for you like mine.” – Maya Angelou

Before marriage, I wondered whether or not marriage can change relationship dynamics, and I have a new perspective now that I’m married. I don’t think a relationship changing positively or negatively after marriage is necessarily the result of the marriage. The quality of a marriage is the result of the continual time and care both partners put in.

Are you married or planning a wedding? I would love to hear if you think marriage changes the dynamic of relationships.

Do you think the level of commitment changes when you get married? Or, do you think marriage is just a social construct and a legal change that doesn’t matter? Let’s chat in the comments.

Cheers!

Sarah Camille

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