The Truth about the First 100 Days of Marriage

Everyone said it would fly by and it really did. The special day we anticipated for months came and went in a flash. Now, it has been a whole 100 days since Will and I got married. While it seems like we got married yesterday, we have also accomplished and learned a lot in the past 100 days! Today I wanted to share the truth about our first 100 days of marriage. People often question if marriage really changes the dynamic of a relationship, so I am going to touch on that as well. Here are our honest and personal opinions.

The Logistics

For both of us, married life has not felt much different from the year we spent engaged. I moved in with Will last summer, so aside from us (mainly me!) doing some additional decorating now that we are married, our home dynamic is the same. We still go grocery shopping, cook together and enjoy talking about our days on walks at night. It’s not particularly exciting or glamorous but they are the steady aspects of our relationship we can find comfort in.

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Our Biggest Change

We instantly agreed on what the single biggest change is that we have experienced since entering into married life. Now, we have much more free time! We knew wedding planning was taking up a lot of time, even more than I had originally anticipated. But, I didn’t realize just how much it took the focus off our long term plans, something Will and I have loved talking and dreaming about together since day one. Now that we are married, conversations about our future together are back in full force. We have a renewed excitement for where we are right now and everything that is to come.

Since getting married, other changes for us have included a new job for Will and some changes in my career. Will’s new job requires more travel than his previous one, so I have had to (and am still trying to) get used to weeks with less quality time than I’d like! I welcome any and all tips for those of you with a partner who travels a lot.

Level of Commitment

While we agreed about having extra time to think about our plans, Will and I have different views when it comes to the commitment that comes with marriage. Will said today he feels no different about his commitment to me than he did last year. I, however, can’t help but feel like sharing our vows publicly cemented and strengthened our commitment to each other. It is hard to explain, but I have felt an extra comfort and security ever since we exchanged our vows.

I wonder if our difference in opinion is something men and women often view differently. Will, like most men, solidified his commitment when he decided to propose. In contrast, I place a lot of value on words, so I feel like there was a difference in me saying, “Yes, I’ll marry you!” and “I promise I’ll always be there for you. I am yours forever.”

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Reminders

The first 100 days have been action-packed and full of change for us. We have a tendency to pack a lot on our plates and do as many fun things as we can. While this is an intention that comes from our excitement to do new things together, we’ve had to remind ourselves that there is no reason to rush. Slowing down and spreading out our plans helps us enjoy each new and individual experience more thoroughly.

In the past 100 days, we have celebrated my little brother’s high school graduation and my grandfather’s 80th birthday. We’ve gotten some beach time with family, had a long weekend in the woods and have enjoyed a hike, kayaking and two motorcycle racing weekends. Looking back, I’m not sure how we did all these things! We were originally supposed to go to Europe the month after our wedding, and due to feeling overwhelmed with all the things on our schedules, we postponed that trip. That might just be the best, first decision we made as a married couple! Hopefully, we can continue to pace ourselves.

The Truth about the First 100 Days of Marriage - While it seems like we got married yesterday, we have also accomplished and learned a lot in the past 100 days! Today I wanted to share the truth about our first 100 days of marriage. People often question if marriage really changes the dynamic of a relationship, so I am going to touch on that as well. -- Sarah Camille's Scoop - SCsScoop.com

Still Learning

When I first met Will, I was overwhelmed by all the questions he asked and just how much he wanted to know about me. Our relationship has grown a lot since that hot summer day, but I’m constantly reminded there are lessons learn about each other and our relationship. We are constantly growing and discovering new things about each other.

Three years into our relationship and 100 days into our marriage and I still wake up thinking, “How did I get so lucky?!” I hope we never stop feeling grateful to have each other. But, just like before marriage, we have our ups and downs, both individually and as a couple. One of the hardest times for me before marriage was losing my job. But going through that experience together gave us a vital lesson. When one of us is down, the person who is in a better state, has to pull the other back up and offer support. Our highs and lows provide us with lessons to make our relationship stronger. We love each other without expectation that the other will magically “save us,” and with the appreciation that being with the other person makes our lives feel completely whole.

“In all the world there is no heart for me like yours. In all the world there is no love for you like mine.” – Maya Angelou

Before marriage, I wondered whether or not marriage can change relationship dynamics, and I have a new perspective now that I’m married. I don’t think a relationship changing positively or negatively after marriage is necessarily the result of the marriage. The quality of a marriage is the result of the continual time and care both partners put in.

Are you married or planning a wedding? I would love to hear if you think marriage changes the dynamic of relationships.

Do you think the level of commitment changes when you get married? Or, do you think marriage is just a social construct and a legal change that doesn’t matter? Let’s chat in the comments.

Cheers!

Sarah Camille

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How You’ll Know He’s the One – A Letter to My Younger Self

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Today is Will’s birthday and it just so happens to be exactly one month until our wedding day (seriously, where did time go!?). I am soaking up this special time and decided to do something a little different on the blog today. This is a post that is (selfishly) more for myself. If you are not in the mood for a mushy post about love, then I would just stop reading now. This post is something I wrote to remember what this time was like in my life, and what it was like finding Will and knowing he was the one for me. I think everyone’s journey to love is a little different, so here is mine. This is a letter to my younger self, the one who would lay awake at night feeling so strongly that there was a man out there who would be the love of my life. The girl who would stay up wondering,  “How will I know he’s the one?” and “When will I meet him?”

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How You’ll Know He’s the One

Sarah Camille,

When you meet the great love of your life, you will know. There are people in your life who have experienced this and are telling you this, and it can be hard to understand, hard to believe, until you experience it. There are people in your life who are telling you not to worry about the future. They tell you it will all work out. “God has a plan,” they say. Do not doubt them. They are 100% correct.

Now as your future self, I know the picture I just painted sounds pretty great. I am sure you are skeptical, and you should be. Life leading up to the day you meet this man will be challenging. You will face some personal challenges and have some really tough, failed relationships. While there will be some terrible days, the days and years when you are on your own serve an invaluable purpose.

It is during this time you will discover a better understanding of who you are. You will be tested and criticized in ways that will make you question, “How in the world will things improve?” It will not be until you truly believe that you deserve to be with the love of your life that he will appear. It will happen right after a truly awful day and you will not see it coming.

You will have a feeling of comfort and familiarity the minute you meet him and you will know in your heart that he is the one for you. He is the man you have been waiting for.

I know you want more details, but they do not really matter. All that matters is that you have found him.

Now, your relationship will not be perfect. Sure you will have lots of laughter and fun together, but you will face challenges pretty early on. There will be a support within your relationship that will make it feel like you can face any of life’s challenges, so long as you are together. And, it will be abundantly clear from the beginning that you two are connected. He will be the man you dreamed of and he will be more than you can imagine, all at once.

It will make sense when you meet him. So in the meantime, enjoy your life exactly as it is right now. Have faith and trust with a peaceful mind that it will all work out exactly the way it is supposed to. You will know he’s the one, when you meet him.

Hugs,

Sarah Camille

 

So, there it is. That is what I would tell my younger self about how you’ll know he’s the one for you. For me, I knew in my heart Will was the right guy for me from the very beginning. I was skeptical and worried first that maybe my heart was wrong. I’m so thankful it wasn’t!

What it means to be “the one”

Now when I say that Will is the one for me, I am really saying I believe he is my soul mate (and I am so excited for our marriage!). But, I realize that not everyone has this kind of experience. I believe soul mates do not always fall in a traditional/stereotypical guy-girl relationship. I think soul mates are simply two people with whom there is a deep connection of the souls. Some people have a few of these in their lifetime, while others may just have one. I think soul mate relationships can be in the form of sibling relationships, friends, marriages and so much more.

Those are my personal thoughts. I would love to hear your thoughts on soul mates and experiences. How did you know your partner was the one? Was there a specific moment that made you realize she or he’s the one for you? Was it a yearlong process of realizing this? Are you still looking for the person you are meant to be with? Share your thoughts and stories in the comments and let’s chat.

Cheers!

Sarah Camille

 

 

 

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How I Got My Dog & Maddie 15 Years Later

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My dog Maddie turns 15 today! So, I thought it would be the perfect time to share the story of how I got my dog and how getting Maddie enhanced my life. I am an animal lover by nature, but I have grown up with different pets and never had a connection to a pet like I have with Maddie. I believe some people end up having a pet or two in their lives that they connect with more than others, much like how there are people we just instantly become friends with. Maddie feels like that pet for me. But before I explain, let me rewind and share with you how I got my dog.

How I Got My Dog

For years before I got Maddie, I was begging my Mom and Dad for a dog of my own. My Mom continually had a reason for us to wait. And while her reasons were valid, the dream never left my mind. In fact, we already had a dog in the house. But, my older brother picked out Jo when I was two, and it always felt very much like she was my brother’s dog. At the time I was asking for a dog, I was entering those awkward, early teenage years, and I think I really just wanted something of my own.

Finally, when I was 13, it was time. We had moved into a new house and my Mom said that after a house-warming party, we could look for a dog. On the morning after the party, I distinctly remember coming downstairs with the classified section of the newspaper in hand and several puppy options circled. My Mom (thankfully!) stuck to her word and we hopped in the car to look at the puppies I had found in the paper.

Sadly, the first couple options did not work out. The first place just had a weird vibe and the second place didn’t have any girl dogs. I think I knew in my head exactly what I was looking for and it was upsetting that I was not just finding the dog I had envisioned immediately. That said, if you are looking for a dog, go with your gut. I’m definitely glad I did that day.

“A dog is the only thing on earth that loves you more than he loves himself.” – Josh Billings

The afternoon was coming to an end, so we decided to pick one more place to visit. We went to a beautiful farm and walked over to the barn. The owner said they had one more girl Bichon puppy, and he quickly went to get her for us to see. I will never forget him walking out with what looked like a small handful of cotton with a black button-nose and eyes. She was adorable! My Mom and I looked at each other, and we instantly knew – this would be my dog.

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Here is Maddie a couple of days after I brought her home. She weighed a whopping 3 pounds at nine weeks old.

As we drove home, the puppy laid on my chest as I decided what to name her. I named her Madeline after the character in the well-known children’s book series, and decided to call her Maddie for short. Maddie and I became attached instantly. I took the lead in her care-taking; feeding her, teaching her how to go up stairs and taking her out in the middle of the night when she needed to go to the bathroom.

I like to think that Maddie understood instantly that I was her “mom.” I know this may sound crazy if you don’t have a pet! But, since the day I got her, Maddie has followed me around everywhere. Family and friends have all commented over the years how they can tell she prefers me.

How Getting a Dog Enhanced my Life

Fast forward through high school, college, finding my first real job, living on my own, meeting Will and so much more, Maddie has been by my side through so many ups and downs. Maddie loves being outside, going on walks and being in the presence of people. She is that dog that will follow you around the house, monitoring you, until you sit down. Maddie also loves (even at 15!) doing sprints around the house upon my arrival home.

Now that Maddie is 15, I have lived more of my life with her than without her. Maddie’s sweet and happy disposition continually gets me through rotten days and reminds me that so often the little details I worry about will not matter in the long run. If you have a dog like Maddie, I think you will understand what I am talking about. Dogs love you and greet you with a smile every day, no matter what. If only more humans (including myself!) could express their love so openly and regularly.

“Dogs are not our whole life, but they make our lives whole.”
—Roger Caras

Maddie continues to teach me lessons, make me smile and remind what is important in life every day. As she gets older, I can only hope the years I have left with her will bring her the same level of happiness she’s had so far in her life. Now, if only I could find a way to tell her how grateful I am for all the years I have had with her sweet soul!

I would love to hear your pet stories! Is the story of how I got my dog similar to yours? Have you ever had a special connection to a dog or pet? Do I sound like a crazy dog-mom or can you relate to my thoughts?! Tell me exactly how you feel and what you think in the comments section.

Cheers!

Sarah Camille

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