Getting Comfortable Saying No: Three Ways I’ve Benefitted

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Do you ever feel like you have 48 hours worth of to-dos in your 24 hour days? It seems to be a feeling that is becoming more and more common. Maybe it is a result of more people juggling multiple jobs and side hustles, maybe it is an increasing cultural (and unrealistic) expectation that we should do and be all the things to everyone! Whatever the reason, today I want to talk about the benefits of saying “no” and share how getting comfortable saying “no” has helped me better balance my job, blogging, relationships and life in general.

“It’s only by saying “no” that you can concentrate on the things that are really important.” – Steve Jobs

What Saying No Looks Like

Saying “yes” is a hard habit to break, and when I first realized I had a problem, I was not sure how to say “no” without being perceived as rude. I was worried that I would no longer think of me as a “nice” person. So, if you are a people-pleaser like me and you’re unsure how to communicate no, here are a few suggestions that worked for me:

“I appreciate you thinking of me for that opportunity but I have a conflict.”

“That sounds fun, but I won’t be able to make it.”

“Sorry, I can’t.”

Of course, our actions can communicate a “yes” or “no” as well. More often than not, I communicate with my actions. I have also learned that saying no to something right now doesn’t have to mean saying no forever. “Not right now,” or texting someone “Can I circle back with you tomorrow?” can be more gentle forms of “no,” and I leaned into them when I was first getting comfortable saying “no”.

The Benefits of Saying “No”

Establishing Boundaries

One of the first times I realized I had a problem saying no was in a previous job. Despite my communications position, I was roped into doing work that was way out of my league and expertise. My boss essentially wanted me to manage the IT support — not at all related to what I was hired to do. In hindsight, this was a direct result of my dirty habit of saying “yes” to every to-do that came my way. My boss and colleagues knew I would always say “yes”. They knew I would grin and bear it, even if it would totally stress me out.

There were many other situations, too, where I was asked to do the task that no one else wanted to do. It left me feeling like I was being taken advantage of, but the truth is that at the time I was too afraid or say “no.” I didn’t know how to break the habit and I didn’t want to let people down.

So, when I started saying “no” I didn’t have a choice. I had to establish boundaries. My boundaries today, revolve around what I consider a block schedule. I’m definitely not perfect, but I try hard each day to set aside specific time windows for work, family and friends and personal time. There are additional boundaries of course, but they stem from those three priorities.

Understanding my Top Priorities

Saying “no” has given me the opportunity to better prioritize my time — because when you say no to one thing you can then say yes to another. When I was in a habit of saying “yes” to everything that came up, I was operating more like someone playing whack-a-mole and less like someone with a schedule or plan for the day. But, when you start saying “no” you inadvertently become more conscious of what you are saying “yes” to and you figure out what your true priorities are.

A few weeks ago, I had three happy hour invites in one week. In the past, I would have said “yes” to each. But instead, I thought about my priorities and realized I needed to say no. I hadn’t worked out in a few days, and I was craving time with Will who was getting home from his week-long work trip.

For me my three priorities are work, family and friends and personal time. The personal bucket includes workout time, blogging, self care and/or doing something fun just for myself. Since I spend most of my time working during the week days, I try to completely cut work out of the picture over the weekends and maintain time with family and friends and personal time as top priorities.

Giving Others Time to Shine

When I was in a habit of saying yes to everything, I often would tell myself, “Well if I don’t do it, who will?!” or “No one else knows how to do this….” I often felt responsible to do more than my share. In work specifically, I had to learn the art of asking for help and sharing “to-dos” with other people. I have realized that my “no’s” can open doors for other people to shine and grow. I can actually come across as more of a team-player in the long run.

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So there you have it. Now, the truth is I’m still getting comfortable with saying “no”. I think of it as a habit that takes process, and some situations are easier than others. These benefits are just as much a reminder to myself as they are something that I hope others can find encouragement in.

And for those of you who don’t have a problem saying “no”, I hope this gives you some insight as to what it is like for the people in your life who only say “yes”.

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If you have a habit of saying “yes” or if you are currently working on getting more comfortable saying “no”, I would love to hear about your experiences. How do you say “no” in tough situations? Let’s chat in the comments!

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New Amazing Amazon Purchases for Style, Beauty and Home

Hi friends!  I don’t know about you, but this winter has been pretty busy, which means I haven’t had as much time as I usually do to shop for various products in person. Thankfully online shopping, and especially the convenience of Amazon has come to my rescue! There are a few recent Amazon purchases that I have been loving during these past couple months. Today, I want to share all the details. They are a random mix of beauty, style and home finds, but they are all very affordable and the level of quality is ah-mazing! So, here they are …

my latest Ah-mazing Amazon purchases

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Now, I want to talk about a few things in particular. First up, are the affordable workout leggings, I stumbled upon. They are $20 and oh-so-soft! I’ve been wearing them on repeat for the past month, have already washed them multiple times and they are holding up quite well. I also just found out the black ones below cost even less!

The gingham swing dress has been an awesome addition to my wardrobe, especially for the price! The fit is true to size and the a-line cut would be flattering on so many different figures. I am also loving the red, long striped cardigan. As I shared in one of my most popular posts, the tan version is a dupe from Topshop that is a quarter of the price. I thought it would be fun to try the red version, and its been a fun way to spice up the neutral tops I use for layering.

There are also a couple new beauty items from Amazon that I am loving. I tried a new collagen powder that is great! It is about $15 less than what I was using before. With the same exact beauty benefits, it has the same flavor-less taste and dissolves better in my coffee. If you haven’t added collagen into your beauty regimen, I highly recommend it. It does wonders for my skin, hair and nails!

The other beauty item from Amazon I am loving lately is a retinol cream. With jojoba oil and vitamin E in it, this stuff is very comparable to the creams I have tried that are 3 or 4 times more expensive. I first bought this stuff last summer, and when winter hit, my skin was not loving some of the higher-end creams I was using. So, I repurchased this stuff and it has been awesome! There’s no wonder why it has SO many good reviews.

In an effort to channel the little “Marie Kondo” inside me, I have been doing a lot of reorganizing. The pan organizer we got has been such a game changer. It expands and the inserts can be removed to create various widths. We no longer have to unstack and unload multiple pans or lids to get to the one we want to use.

Have you had any amazing Amazon purchases lately? I would love to hear if you guys like to online shop too.  Do you do more online shopping in the winter? Let me know in the comments.

Cheers!

Sarah Camille

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11 Affordable Fair Isle Sweaters for Winter

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I don’t know about you, but I am loving the fair isle sweater trend this winter! They are a fun way to spice up your winter wardrobe. If you are like me and have been eyeing this trend, then this post is for you. For a little fashion inspiration, I am sharing how I recently styled a new fair isle sweater with all the outfit details. Plus, I found 11 cute and affordable fair isle sweaters worth adding to any winter wardrobe.

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The fair isle sweater I am wearing is from LOFT and is currently 50% off! I styled my sweater with ripped jeans and a western style bootie for a bit of a unique twist. Also, my handbag is a new purchase that I have been loving. It was the perfect size for our recent trip to Europe, and the oxblood color goes with so many things. It comes in three other pretty, neutral colors, that are super tempting to get given its affordable price! Of course, on colder days I would throw my go-to parka (also on sale right now!) over this outfit to stay warm.

11 Affordable Fair Isle Sweaters

Hover over the sweater below to see the price. Most are under $25!!

Now, I would love to hear from you all. Are you digging the fair isle trend? What is your favorite sweater of the ones I shared? I would love to hear what affordable pieces are in your wardrobe for this winter too.

Stay warm my friends!

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