The Truth about the First 100 Days of Marriage

Everyone said it would fly by and it really did. The special day we anticipated for months came and went in a flash. Now, it has been a whole 100 days since Will and I got married. While it seems like we got married yesterday, we have also accomplished and learned a lot in the past 100 days! Today I wanted to share the truth about our first 100 days of marriage. People often question if marriage really changes the dynamic of a relationship, so I am going to touch on that as well. Here are our honest and personal opinions.

The Logistics

For both of us, married life has not felt much different from the year we spent engaged. I moved in with Will last summer, so aside from us (mainly me!) doing some additional decorating now that we are married, our home dynamic is the same. We still go grocery shopping, cook together and enjoy talking about our days on walks at night. It’s not particularly exciting or glamorous but they are the steady aspects of our relationship we can find comfort in.

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Our Biggest Change

We instantly agreed on what the single biggest change is that we have experienced since entering into married life. Now, we have much more free time! We knew wedding planning was taking up a lot of time, even more than I had originally anticipated. But, I didn’t realize just how much it took the focus off our long term plans, something Will and I have loved talking and dreaming about together since day one. Now that we are married, conversations about our future together are back in full force. We have a renewed excitement for where we are right now and everything that is to come.

Since getting married, other changes for us have included a new job for Will and some changes in my career. Will’s new job requires more travel than his previous one, so I have had to (and am still trying to) get used to weeks with less quality time than I’d like! I welcome any and all tips for those of you with a partner who travels a lot.

Level of Commitment

While we agreed about having extra time to think about our plans, Will and I have different views when it comes to the commitment that comes with marriage. Will said today he feels no different about his commitment to me than he did last year. I, however, can’t help but feel like sharing our vows publicly cemented and strengthened our commitment to each other. It is hard to explain, but I have felt an extra comfort and security ever since we exchanged our vows.

I wonder if our difference in opinion is something men and women often view differently. Will, like most men, solidified his commitment when he decided to propose. In contrast, I place a lot of value on words, so I feel like there was a difference in me saying, “Yes, I’ll marry you!” and “I promise I’ll always be there for you. I am yours forever.”

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Reminders

The first 100 days have been action-packed and full of change for us. We have a tendency to pack a lot on our plates and do as many fun things as we can. While this is an intention that comes from our excitement to do new things together, we’ve had to remind ourselves that there is no reason to rush. Slowing down and spreading out our plans helps us enjoy each new and individual experience more thoroughly.

In the past 100 days, we have celebrated my little brother’s high school graduation and my grandfather’s 80th birthday. We’ve gotten some beach time with family, had a long weekend in the woods and have enjoyed a hike, kayaking and two motorcycle racing weekends. Looking back, I’m not sure how we did all these things! We were originally supposed to go to Europe the month after our wedding, and due to feeling overwhelmed with all the things on our schedules, we postponed that trip. That might just be the best, first decision we made as a married couple! Hopefully, we can continue to pace ourselves.

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Still Learning

When I first met Will, I was overwhelmed by all the questions he asked and just how much he wanted to know about me. Our relationship has grown a lot since that hot summer day, but I’m constantly reminded there are lessons learn about each other and our relationship. We are constantly growing and discovering new things about each other.

Three years into our relationship and 100 days into our marriage and I still wake up thinking, “How did I get so lucky?!” I hope we never stop feeling grateful to have each other. But, just like before marriage, we have our ups and downs, both individually and as a couple. One of the hardest times for me before marriage was losing my job. But going through that experience together gave us a vital lesson. When one of us is down, the person who is in a better state, has to pull the other back up and offer support. Our highs and lows provide us with lessons to make our relationship stronger. We love each other without expectation that the other will magically “save us,” and with the appreciation that being with the other person makes our lives feel completely whole.

“In all the world there is no heart for me like yours. In all the world there is no love for you like mine.” – Maya Angelou

Before marriage, I wondered whether or not marriage can change relationship dynamics, and I have a new perspective now that I’m married. I don’t think a relationship changing positively or negatively after marriage is necessarily the result of the marriage. The quality of a marriage is the result of the continual time and care both partners put in.

Are you married or planning a wedding? I would love to hear if you think marriage changes the dynamic of relationships.

Do you think the level of commitment changes when you get married? Or, do you think marriage is just a social construct and a legal change that doesn’t matter? Let’s chat in the comments.

Cheers!

Sarah Camille

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Our Spring Wedding Highlights

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Our wedding was 20 days ago. Time is flying. We are settling back into reality (or trying to), and before my memory escapes me I want to share our spring wedding highlights. Will and I got married on April 28th in Middleburg, Virginia. It truly felt magical and dream-like.

Of course, there were days leading up to it when I was super stressed out and I wondered how it would come together. In the end, all the hard work and coordination of everyone involved paid off. I cannot thank enough everyone who helped me along the way or listened to me vent when I was stressed out about something. It still means so much and I appreciate it more than you know. The wedding planning process can have a lot of ups and downs, so having people support you through it is such a blessing.

First, here are a few pre-ceremony pictures.

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Side note:  If you are in the throes of wedding planning, I hope these details give you some inspiration and confidence that it will all come together. I will share some advice in the coming weeks as well, but if you have any questions, feel free to drop a comment or reach out to me – seriously!

Also, I have mentioned certain vendors and products below because I truly loved working with them and their work. I did not have any obligation to mention anyone in any way. And to my vendors mentioned below – you all rock and exceeded our expectations!! We could not have asked for a better group of people to work with for our wedding.

Our Spring Wedding Highlights

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For the ceremony, I wore Badgley Mischka (similar here) shoes I got off Poshmark. They were the last pair I could find online that were my size and had a block heel. But, right before our first dance I decided to put on a comfier and sturdier set of heels that were the same height. That was probably one of the best decisions I made that night because my feet didn’t hurt at all and they made it so easy to walk in the grass!

Now, here are some post-ceremony and reception photos.

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My Favorite Wedding Detail of the Day

It is quite hard to choose, but perhaps my favorite detail of the day was my dress. As I mentioned above, the designer was Paloma Blanca, however, I was able to get the sleeves from the wedding dress of my grandmother and namesake added to my dress. I also wore the veil that my grandmother made for my mother’s wedding day, which has also been worn by my aunt and three cousins. My grandmother passed away when I was seven, so having these pieces integrated into my wedding day look made me feel extra special and connected to her.

 

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Are you married or planning your own wedding? I would love to hear all the details! Are there certain, special parts or details of your wedding or a wedding you recently went to that you loved? Please share in the comments! And like I said earlier, if you have any wedding planning questions, feel free to ask. There is definitely a learning curve with it, and I wish any brides to be out there the best of luck.

Cheers!

Sarah Camille

P.S. Here are my tips for brides to be!

 

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10 Wedding Registry Tips to Make the Process Easy

When the wedding planning process began for Will and I back in April, I always envisioned registering for wedding gifts would be one of those fun and easy tasks for us. Now, we are less than six months until our wedding day, and we just recently finished setting up our wedding registry. It has taken us over a month from start to finish. The process was much more confusing and time-consuming than I had imagined it would be!

There are so many options of what to register for and so many ways you can register for gifts. In addition to all the options out there, I got a lot of opinions on what was proper or “normal” when it comes to wedding registries. If I could go back and time and give myself some advice before going down the gift registering road, here are the tips I’d share.

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My Wedding Registry Tips

  1. Get inspired. Looking at other couples registries is a great way to start thinking about what you and your partner should register for.
  2. Make a game plan. Start by checking out a comprehensive wedding registry list online. I printed off two of the ones below. Then, Will and I went through individually and circled things we thought were needed. This was a great way for us to start the conversation. We discussed what we should register for, noted what we already have and thought about items that can be upgraded.
  3. Pick a few registries. It is good to register at two to four places because your guests will have their own places they typically shop. Some may also prefer shopping online over a store, or vice versa.
  4. Take your time. Set aside a couple full days on upcoming weekends for you and your partner to focus on the registry together. Going to a store in person was not originally something I thought was necessary, but for certain bigger items it is definitely helpful to see them.
  5. Don’t delay. It is ideal not to put off registering for gifts until too late. Aim to register for gifts before the six month mark. You do not want the process to feel rushed, and as I mentioned it can take longer than you think to figure it all out!
  6. Vary the prices. Don’t register for lots of small things or only a few big things. It is best to have the majority of your gifts be under $100 and then have about 25-30% that are more expensive.
  7. More is better. Register for more gifts than guests. Now, there is no need to register for 400 gifts when you will have 200 guests, but registering for extra things will make gift buying easier because your guests will have different preferences for shopping and gift giving in general.
  8. Check in. Keep in mind that certain products or items you register for could go out of stock. Every so often, and especially a couple of weeks before your wedding, check on your registries. Make sure all the items on your list are available and make any necessary tweaks or additions.
  9. It’s ok to be unconventional. Don’t feel pressured by the opinions of friends or family on what you should register for. Everyone has opinions, but if a certain item will not be used or is not your taste, don’t register for it. Whatever people say, it is absolutely fine to register for unconventional gifts. For some, these can include a honeymoon fund, hammock or a cool bluetooth speaker system. This is your time! Your registry should reflect you and your partner’s tastes.
  10. Keep a gift tracker. Each time you receive a gift, write what the gift is and who sent it. Many registries have an online system that will track it for you. But, if you are registered at a few places, it is much easier to have one master list when you are writing thank yous.

Here is the Wedding Registry Checklist I used, from PopSugar:

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Will and I registered at four places – Macy’s, Pottery Barn, Zola and Amazon. Zola is not as well-known as the other three, but it is a great option to consider for your wedding registry, especially if you would like to include have some unconventional gifts. The bulk of our gifts are from there. They have a huge range of brands and products. There are well-known brands like, KitchenAid, Le Creuset and All-Clad to shop from. In addition, Zola has several  unique brands like Creative Co-Op and Brooklyn Slate.

Zola also makes it more possible to get some pricier gifts, by allowing you to activate group gifting. For example, we registered for a KitchenAid mixer on Zola that is $380. With the group gift activated, multiple guests can contribute what they’d like to gift you’ve picked out. The other great differentiator for Zola are the unconventional gift options I mentioned in my tips. Through Zola, you can create a honeymoon fund, add a fun experience in your city or give your guests the option to contribute to something like a down payment on a house (pictured below).

Click here to set up your registry on Zola and get $50!! 

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Some of the gifts on our registry that we are super excited about include a hammock from Zola, All-Clad pots and pans, Kate Spade wine goblets, a power drill that Will picked out from Amazon and dinnerware from Pottery Barn (pictured above).

For Will and I, getting wrapped up in registering for gifts left us feeling a little self-centered and greedy, but we reminded ourselves that these do greatly help your guests. Not only that but these gifts will play a huge role in turning our house into our very first home as a married couple.

What do you think about wedding registries?

Now, I’d love to hear from you. How do you feel about giving and receiving  more unconventional wedding gifts? Have you used or bought gifts through Zola before?  If you’re married, what were your favorite gifts you received? Is there anything you think ever couple should register for? If you aren’t married what do you look forward to getting one day?

Cheers,

Sarah Camille

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